Does Your Child Lie To You?
The relationship between parents and children is simple yet complex. Children can tell everything to their parents and sometimes they tend to hide most stuff. Even parents, who are open-minded, find themselves caught up in a web of lies spun by their children and wonder ‘why is my child lying to me?’
Children usually start lying from a very young age, usually when they turn three. They realize that if they provide false information some people might believe them and so they lie. As children grow older the amount of lies may increase. For example, children between 4-6 years lie a lot as they realize that they’re getting better a lying and when a child finally goes to school, they lie more often and more convincingly.
Well, there are certain reasons why your child may be lying to you; these reasons mostly depend on the situation and their motivation behind it.
Children may lie to cover or hide something. Many of us also lied to our parents to avoid the punishments or negative consequences that come along with doing something naughty or something prohibited. Children may lie about their grades or their performance at school, hoping to avoid getting grounded by their parents.
Experimenting with Children’s Reactions:
Secondly, children may lie to experiment with their parents reactions. They try to explore their parents’ response to a certain story or a hypothetical situation. It might not be serious, they might temporarily be making up a story to judge your reaction and let you in on the truth later on.
Thirdly, sometimes children may lie to exaggerate a story. They do this in order to impress someone by enhancing the details of a story in contrast to what actually occurred. This is not unusual for young children as they like to build the interest of other people in their stories by adding gory and fascinating non-factual details.
Fourthly, a child might lie to gain attention. Some kids are more attention-seeking than others. They try to grab the interest of others by lying to them. Mostly they’re aware that the listener knows the truth but they lie anyway to become the center of attention.
Lastly, some children are manipulating. In order to get someone to do something for them or to set something up, they lie. For example, if a child wants to have ice-cream, he can lie by saying that my mother lets me have ice-cream even though it may not be true.